Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Things Left Said: A Letter to Mama

Dear Mama,

 
The past couple of years have been rough for us. Our journey started in August of 2014 with your breast cancer diagnosis. By the end of that year, you also had emergency surgery to correct a blockage in your carotid artery in your neck, as well as a stage III small cell lung cancer diagnosis (this was a separate cancer from the breast cancer.) Praise God the breast cancer was only stage 0 & was eradicated with a lumpectomy & radiation treatment. Your surgery to place a stent in the carotid artery went beautifully, with no issues since then. The lung cancer, which was a scary diagnosis to receive, was treated with a powerful chemo cocktail & radiation combination, with completion of the treatment plan in early 2015. Ever since then, you have had regular CT scans to ensure that the cancer had not returned & all have been clear…except for that one.

 
In April of this year (2017), one scan didn’t come back clear. Your lung cancer had returned…the same kind & stage as the last time. Except this time, there was to be no cure, no complete healing…only hopes for periods of remission. Ever since this diagnosis, we’ve set out to bring you to your first period of remission, battling this beast with the same chemo cocktail that proved effective against it the last time. Except this time, you were in a much weakened state of health. This time, the week after completion of your 2nd round of chemo, your body gave out & you ended up in the hospital. After 2 weeks in the hospital & 3 weeks at rehab to try to gain your strength back, we decided to bring you back home where you felt more comfortable. We apprehensively awaited your next oncologist appointment to find out the next move in your treatment, but I believe we all instinctively knew what that next step would be. Your body was so very tired from the fight & too weak to be able to withstand any further treatment. Wisely, the oncologist referred you to Hospice.

 
This is where we are today. One week ago, you decided to go under the care of our local Hospice. Even though you desire to get better, your body is working against you. It is tired & cannot endure anymore harsh chemo treatments. Although it has been tough watching your health go downhill, I cannot even begin to imagine what it must be for you to go through this decline, to know that the cancer in your body will one day overtake you, to feel yourself slipping away. My heart has ached at seeing the once vivacious redhead be taken over by a disease that shouldn’t have a part in anyone’s world. I’ve watched you be embarrassed by things that come with the progression of cancer & I’ve longed to shield you from that. To clear away the cobwebs of confusion from the mind of a once witty, sassy, funny woman. To be your legs when you can’t stand or walk. But I can’t.

 
And this is where I am today. Ever since the decline of your health has been an issue, but much more so lately, I have had been in turmoil with myself, trying to reconcile those demons that we all have floating around us from our childhood & past, with the reality of today. I want you to know that I have won this battle…I choose to see the good in things that once were thorns in my side. I want, desperately need, to take a moment to let you know what has been on my heart. I don’t ever want the pain of regret to loom over me when the time comes to tell you goodbye should anything be left unsaid. I want to tell you what I’ve learned about you, about me, through all of this.

 
One of the biggest things I had a hard time with growing up was living with my grandparents & not you. Not that I didn’t/don’t appreciate or love living with them, but you know kids…they can be cruel. I used to get picked on in school because my grandmother used to come to all of my school functions, not my mother. When kids found out that I lived with my grandparents, not my mother, they were harsh with their words, calling me “unwanted” or “thrown away”. I know that there were so many factors behind my brother & I going to live with Grandma & Grandpa, decisions that had to be made on your part that could not have been easy to make, especially in the situation you were in. I see now that this was raw maternal instinct at its finest, protecting ones “cubs” when threats of harm come their way. Living with my grandparents gave me so much more than a safe place to sleep. I got an extended family, an aunt & uncle that were there throughout most of my younger years, who helped raise me. Most kids only have their moms & dads, getting only weekend, or holiday, visits with their grandparents & aunts/uncles, but not me! I got the privilege to have 4 extra people step into the roles to help build me into the person I am today. Most importantly, Grandma’s & Grandpa’s love of church gave me the foundation for a relationship with Christ…one that I wouldn’t accept until much later in life…but one that kept drawing me back until I surrendered my life to Him.

 
Money, or lack thereof, as a child can be devastating. I’m not necessarily talking about not having basic needs, although there were times that was close to reality. No, what I’m talking about is just not having the “it” stuff: the clothes, the shoes, the hairdo, the car & house. Let’s face it: growing up is hard & when you have to do so in an extremely materialistic society, it’s downright impossible. I remember being so embarrassed by our constant breakdowns, or the black smoke or awful rackets that used to come from some of the cars we’ve had. I used to hate anyone coming over to our home because it was so inadequate (in my young teenage mind) or inferior to my friends. And my clothes…well, we don’t even have to go there, do we? This scarred my childhood…so I thought...no, let’s be honest, it did. And don’t even get me started on that brat of a younger brother I had to watch a LOT because you had to work & the pain-in-my-behind older brother who used to like to beat me up! And the absent father or the next step-dad that was sure to leave? Yep…again, the taunts of “not wanted” would rise up from my classmates. These things caused so much pain, pain that would take years to go away, or at least make me become numb enough to fake it.

 
I look back on that now & all I see, all I choose to see, is a single mother doing her best to raise 3 very unruly, hard-headed children. We didn’t have the best, we didn’t have a lot, but oh, what we did have! Because we didn’t have a lot, we chose to make the best of what we could. Some of my best memories are just driving around dirt roads (yes, in that huge clunker…does it really matter which one) sightseeing, talking, & singing. I loved going to mobile home dealerships with you, picking our dream home, choosing the colors, the furniture, waiting for “one day.” The auctions…the zombie movies...or any scary movie for that matter…the many, many pets we were blessed to have…so many memories. I’ve learned to appreciate my siblings & know that family is everything & the first thing, no matter what. I’ve learned that someone’s absence from my life is that person’s load to bear…not mine. I’ve learned that, as a woman, I must make sure to be able to do for myself & mine, not relying on anyone else to take care of me.

 
I know that I struggle sometimes with being an inadequate mother, rehashing my past mistakes with my children & aching for the “should-have’s” & “if only’s”. I can only imagine what someone must go through when they are at the end of their time on earth & are faced with their mere humanness. But I want you to know, you did well…I am ok. Because of you, I learned what it means to be self-sufficient. Because of you, I was blessed with a foundation & love for Christ that called to me even in my wayward times. Because of you, I have learned to appreciate the “less-than” times. Because of all of this, & so much more, I am the woman that I am today. I don’t think I’ve ever truly expressed my deepest heart’s desire to you…my love of Africa. My soul so longs to be there all the time. I truly believe because of you, because of the hard times we have weathered, I can appreciate & will able to thrive efficiently in those areas of that beautiful country that call to my heart. For all of this, & so much more, I thank you, Mama.

 
I wrote this to you so I could say all the things that needed to be said, but I have to apologize to you. The one thing that should have been the one thing that was always said was only discussed in passing conversations...God & your salvation. I will always regret not talking to you about it more until now, until this time in your life. But I am making a promise & commitment to you that I will always talk to you about this…every day. Mama, I pray every night & throughout my day, that the Lord shows Himself to you in such a way that you can no longer deny Him your heart & soul. I pray that in our time left together I can daily present His gospel of love & that one day, you’ll accept. No one is ever out of reach of His grace & mercy…no one…no matter what. I will ask others to pray. I will read to you out of His Word every night I am with you. I will pray with you before I leave you. I will fight for you, so that one day, the last thing left said about you will be “She was His.”

 
Always & forever your little girl,

 
Christy

Thursday, January 12, 2017

My Heart Beats to an African Drum

“Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
~ Psalm 37:4 ~

I can’t really put a date on when my heart started to beat differently, but it has been about 3 or 4 years since Africa became a huge part of my life. It may have started when my husband (Bryan) & I watched the movie, The Machine Gun Preacher (I don’t recommend this movie for families with young children as there is some language & lots of war-type violent scenes, but it is an awesome movie based on the life of real life preacher Sam Childers.) Or maybe it was that everything else since that movie & in my life pointed to Africa. I cannot, even today, explain why Africa, but I do know there was a point in my life where my heart starting beating wildly to an African drum.

I used to kid Bryan a lot about packing up & moving to Africa. I had friends that couldn’t understand where this passion that I know God placed upon my heart. I researched, studied, prayed of the day Bryan & I would call Africa home. Unfortunately, Bryan wanted no part of Africa. He would say that God would have to send him an email before he would go to Africa. I remember getting so frustrated because I know this yearning, this desire, came from God, but I couldn’t understand why God would give me such a desire & not my husband, knowing I can’t move without him. I finally gave this desire to God, knowing if it was truly from Him, HE would be the one to make Africa happen, in the way He planned.

As our Lord promises us in His Word, if we “delight in Him”, following & obeying Him, He will give us the “desires of our heart.” And once I stepped back & allowed Him to work in His own way, oh, how He did! In the fall of 2015, a friend that knew of my desire told me about a group from First Baptist Church here in Tifton that were planning a trip to Uganda the following year. She gave me the information to one of the team leaders & of course, I contacted her right away (I think the more accurate description would be I harassed her, but you get the drift.) They had a team planning meeting set for October & I was determined to be at that meeting! Bryan still had not received his calling for Africa, but gladly gave me his blessing to go forward with attending the meeting.

After the initial planning meeting, Bryan & I discussed at length the things that our team was supposed to be doing in Uganda. The more we discussed, the more God worked on Bryan’s heart. By the time the trip commitment money was due in December, Bryan felt God’s tug & committed to going with me! Talk about God giving me the desires of my heart! As much as I longed for Africa, I long to serve God with my husband more! My heart was overwhelmed! The planning of the trip from this point on seemed like such a whirlwind & yet also seemed to last forever. It didn’t seem like the day to leave for Africa would ever get here! The day finally did come & I will be forever changed because of this trip! Please take a moment to read about our trip & the missions we served below. I have tons more pictures than I have put in this blog, but I have linked the Facebook photo album to each section so you can go browse through all of the pictures I took during our time there (please click on the link in each section title to find pictures for that section.)

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 Our team headed out on Friday, April 15, 2016 from First Baptist Church, Tifton after the blessings of prayers from our families & the church. Our team consisted of Bryan & I, Kim Colwell, Brett Meeks, Nathan & Alice Johnson, Wes Ross, Cassidy Ingram, Ron Lawhon, Shannon Ross, & Eddie & Jaclyn Bennett (left to right on the picture below.)


We flew from Atlanta to Amsterdam, from Amsterdam to Rwanda, & from Rwanda to Uganda. This was mine & Bryan’s first time EVER on a plane, so to say we were nervous is a huge understatement! This was truly an experience of a lifetime for us both! We finally arrived in country around 10:30 pm (their time) Saturday night (April 16.) I cannot tell you how my heart raced & the feeling I had getting off of the plane & setting foot on African soil. Just one of the many overwhelming moments I constantly praise God for!

After a 2-hour bus ride to the village of Buziika, we finally arrived at Canaan Kids Children’s Home around 2 am Sunday morning (April 17.) It was pouring down rain when we arrived, yet we were greeted by so many smiling children & staff. I don’t think we had to lift a finger to get anything off the bus into what would be our home for the next few days as all of the children & staff pitched in to help. After giving us quick hello & goodnight hugs, we bid farewell to these sweet children, with promises to see them bright & early in the morning for church. After being on a plane for 2 days & having to get up for church in a couple of hours, I don’t think any of us had any trouble falling asleep fast.


            Around 5 am Sunday, we were woken suddenly by this loud talking & cackling over a loudspeaker. This was apparently some sort of radio show from the village that we soon discovered would be our alarm nearly every day we were at Canaan. About an hour later, the church (that was literally outside our home) started practicing for Sunday service. With no choice but to get up since I was already awake, I stumbled to our rudimentary showers that thankfully did have hot-ish running water to get ready for our first day in Africa!

            When Bryan & I were done getting ready, we went outside to find many curious children who had come to check out the new mzungu (white people.) Since it had rained the night before, there were red clay puddles everywhere, even near the swing set & see saw, but that didn’t discourage the children from playing & asking us to play with them. So what do you do but play along?! I instantly knew that these children would be the best part of this trip for me!


            Our team was tasked with the honor of teaching Sunday School. The women got the pleasure of teaching the younger children while the men taught the older youth & adults. When my group got into the Sunday School room, we were astonished at the large number of children (from Canaan, as well as the surrounding village.) It was definitely one of the largest Sunday School classes I have ever had!



Most of the children speak English, but some of the village children did not, so we had an interpreter with us the entire time. We introduced ourselves & let the children introduce themselves to us. We started out singing Bible songs with the children & they were so eager to sing us some songs in their native tongue, Luganda. I feel in love listening to their sweet voices praise God!

There was this one little girl who sat beside or on me the entire time. She was too shy to take a picture with me, but she talked to me softly during our time together. She told me she was glad I was there & kept telling me she loved me. She kept giving me the “sparkles” off of her shirt, telling me she wanted me to have them. I put them in my Bible where I pray they will forever be in the crevices of its pages.


            After Sunday School, we all met back up as a team where we were seated at the front of the church as guests of honor. The worship was definitely different than we are used to here in the States, but they worship with a passion the same Lord we do! I was overcome with emotions many times watching them praise God. I became overwhelmed at the reality of God’s promises coming true for me in that moment. I have no doubt He placed Africa on my heart & He showed me His will & blessings because He had brought me where He said He would. My God is so great & worthy to be praised!


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            After church, we had a quick bite to eat before the men headed to the town of Jinja to do a men’s conference, while we had our women’s conference there at Canaan. (Since I don’t have first-hand experience with the men’s conference, I’ll focus on the women’s conference, but you can click on the link above to see a couple of pictures taken at the men’s conference.)

            We had about 110+ women attend our conference, which started out with some of the staff leading us in worship. Alice introduced us, telling the women what had brought us all the way to Africa to them. In our planning for this conference, we had decided to have our theme of the women’s conference be Identity in Christ. Each of us had taken a topic & researched & prayed over it before we ever boarded the planes. I am not much of a public speaker at all. Especially with over 100 women watching me! I believe each of us women felt the same pressure & anxiety to speak, but I can honestly say that when I got up to speak, no anxiety was present. God is amazing!

            After we completed our speaking part of the conference, we prepared to commence a feet-washing / blessing ceremony. I had never participated in one before & was a little apprehensive as to how this would play out. We set up 3 stations (2 women to each station) & told the woman we wanted to serve them by washing their feet. At first, not many women came forward, but when a few started down the aisle, it gave courage to the rest of the women to come forward. As worship music played softly in the background, women would come forward to have their feet washed & a prayer of blessing prayed over them. This was the most surreal experience I’ve ever experienced. So humbling & overwhelming. I believe we were blessed as much as the women during this ceremony.




            While the men were still in Jinja at the men’s conference, the ladies got to have a dance party & some play time with the children. They took each of us under their wing & attempted to teach us some African dance steps. It’s been years since I danced that hard, but it was so worth it to hear their laughter & see the smiles on their faces!


            And, of course, they loved to take pictures! Make sure you click on the link above to see their silly, smiling faces!


            Once the guys got back, we had dinner. Let me take a moment to speak of the food we had while here. It was definitely not food from home, but it was very good! Florence (our cook) did an excellent job preparing our meals & loving on us. We even had fried chicken! Yes, the chicken was a lot smaller than we are used to, but it was fried chicken! And the fruit! I don’t think I have ever tasted pineapple that was sweeter! I will tell you I worried about the food as I am a little bit picky, but I assure you I did not go hungry. I did have to quit taking my diabetic medications while over there because my blood sugar dropped too much with it. No preservatives & added sugars really do help!


            After a good night’s rest (thanks to a busy Sunday & medication from the doctor), we started our day with a yummy breakfast thanks to Florence. That morning, Josephine (one of the staff at Canaan) took us on a tour of the property there at Canaan. We took a look at the site where the men would help start building a chicken coop. This was one of our main missions for Canaan as having chickens would greatly benefit the children with the extra protein & it could even provide Canaan with extra income for other needs.


            We looked into some of the children’s living quarters. The children are separated by sex & age in the quarters, but they all live the same way. They eat & sleep in their designated dorms. Of course, because of malaria, they have to have the mosquito nets on their beds (we did too.) You can also see that the children follow a daily schedule that includes morning prayers.



We even got to see the sewing / craft room where they teach usable skills to the children. At Canaan, school work is most important. In Uganda, when the children get to a certain age, they must take a test to see if they will go any further in school. If they fail, then they can no longer go to school (it is very expensive there for them to attend school.) This is why school work it priority, but also why they teach the children how to sew & make crafts such as bracelets. If a child happens to not pass the test, then they will have some skills that will help them provide for themselves as they grow older. It’s heartbreaking to think of a child having to support him/herself at a young age, but this is their reality in Uganda. Thank God for people like Papa Isaac & his staff that are building Uganda’s future through these children!


            As we toured more of the property, we came up on some squatters who live on the property (it’s too expensive & a long process to have them removed.) They children thought it was hilarious to see so many mzungu in one place. They walked with us through most of the property, their smiles & laughter grabbing at your heart strings.




            The overall beauty of Uganda is incomparable in my eyes. The lush green against the red clay roads is breathtaking!



            Due to the heavy rain the night before, there was an impassable spot in our journey, so we had to make a detour & go back to Canaan via the village of Buziika. Like any small town USA, you could find people peddling their ware or services on the street.



            Since we were walking through the village, we made a pit stop at Canaan Primary School to meet the teachers & children there. We went from class to class, letting them sing songs & show us what they have learned.


            After we left the school, we headed back through the village toward Canaan for lunch. In the village, there is a Muslim school (probably more than one) & the time we were headed back must have been lunch time for them because there were several little ones in school uniforms & hijabs. One little girl ran up to me & grabbed my hand, walking with me through the village until she reached her destination. She had such a sweet smile, but my heart broke for her. For her parents, or the ones that take care of her, for the other children running home from this school. From where we were at Canaan, we could hear the Muslim call to prayer each time it rang out…such an eerie & sad sound, knowing they worship a dead god. How I long for & pray that I am able to be a presence in this community to spread the love of Jesus to these precious, lost souls.


            This was a long, hot morning, but one filled with such beautiful scenery & wonderful memories I’ll forever hold in my heart. By the way, most of you probably don’t know this about me, but I used to have severe back pain so severe that I could not walk some mornings or after trying to walk short distances. There would have been no way that I could have endured what ended up being a 4.67 mile walk over slick, inclining surfaces had my Lord not healed me in 2014. Praise Him!


            Monday through Wednesday evenings consisted of a youth conference we held there at Canaan (youth in Uganda consisted of ages 13 & even up to age 30.) We decided to do a study on the life of Joseph for the theme of our youth conference. We started off with praise & worship, & then we broke up into a couple of small groups. 


Some Mamas brought their babies & I was happy to help distract them so their Mamas could get some Bible study in!




            After the first night of the youth conference was over, we just hung out with the children at Canaan. We painted faces, nails, played jump rope, soccer, & loved all over them. 



The children loved playing with my hair & ended up giving me these lovely braids that I wore all night to the delight of the girls!


Eddie & Little Isaac pulled out the guitar & we sat around singing praise & worship songs with them well into the night.


            I want to introduce you to Shafic. He is friends with Little Isaac, one of the staff members at Canaan. He came to the youth conference earlier & hung around with us afterwards. He was sitting there singing with us when he suddenly got up & went to find someone to talk to. He wanted to learn more about this Jesus & wanted to become a Christian to have the happiness like we did, so Nathan shared the Gospel with him. Praise God Shafic is now one of our brothers in Christ! This right here is why it is important to be there! Through our joy in spending time with these children, these people from around the world, Shafic saw Christ & wanted to know that Christ for himself. This makes the long plane rides, the hot weather, the cold shower water…this makes it all worth it!




            Tuesday morning, the guys were scheduled to help the Canaan staff move bricks for the foundation for the chicken coop (us women were told we were not allowed to do such manual labor, so we happily submitted & obeyed.) Our men worked so hard moving bricks all morning. It was funny to see the African men throwing & carrying bricks back & forth with no protection while our men donned thick work gloves. After the men carrying the bricks back & forth from the pile to the work area, someone finally came up with the bright idea to form a passing line. This was a long, tiring work day for our men.


            While the men slaved away on the chicken coop, the ladies got to go to the Canaan Kindergarten. Cassidy presented the kindergarten class with some things that her Mom’s class had made for them (reusable white boards for each student, as well as a banner colored by her students.) We sang songs with the children & even read books to the students.



            That Tuesday evening, we held an eye clinic for the staff at Canaan before we opened the eye clinic for the rest of the village. This was another main mission for our trip. We had collected donations from our community for several months & had so many reading glasses, prescription glasses, & even some sunglasses donated for this. Wes is an eye doctor, so he dealt out jobs for each of us to do while he checked eyes.


            I, of course, took advantage of some down time & loved on some of those sweet babies!



            After dinner & the youth conference that night, the Canaan children wanted to give us a special welcome presentation to thank us for coming. Each dorm came up to sing & dance whatever they had prepared for us. It was such a fun & lively time watching the joy come from these children when they performed.


            I, again, took advantage to love on some sweet children during the performances! This sweet young man’s name is Derek. He hung out with Bryan & I most of the night & week.



            Wednesday morning, while the guys continued to sling bricks, the women went to an orphanage in the village to love on some babies. The ride to the orphanage was rocky, at best, as the roads were still slippery & bumpy due to the rain. But oh the scenery! We passed some mud huts, the mosque that was close to Canaan, & even a house that I believe is being built for Bryan & me to live there one day!



            The most beautiful view was when we finally reached the top of the hill (of which we had to walk from the road because the van would not go on the road up to the orphanage.) What would you do to have a view like this to wake up to every morning?!


This view, unfortunately, is overshadowed by the desperate need this orphanage has. Most of these orphanages are started by individuals who have a heart for the unwanted child. These are people who live in the community & know these children need somewhere to go, somewhere with someone to care for them. There are so many of these homes that need our prayers & financial help. Please visit the Sangaalo Babies Facebook page or their ministry partner, Hope Grafted In, for information on the orphanage or for information on sponsoring or general donations.

When we first arrived at the orphanage, the children were sitting on the front porch eating. So many sweet babies! We made ourselves at home among the babies!


            So, if you know anything about me, you know that I LOVE babies! I would adopt a household full of them if I could. Well, I found me 3 sweet babies right here at this orphanage! Meet sweet Brandon (3 years), Terri (10 months), & Keaton (5 months)! Brandon’s eyes looked so sad so I couldn’t do anything but love on him! Terri was only 10 months old, but she drank her porridge (a watered down millet porridge) from a “big girl” cup, not spilling a single drop! And my Keaton! Oh, how I loved to listen to him laugh & see him smile! If I knew I could have gotten away with it, I would have taken these babies home so fast!




            We hung out with these sweet babies for a while, & then we talked to the women that ran the orphanage. They showed us some jewelry they had made to sell, so we browsed through the items to find treasures to take back home to our loved ones. Since this was a source of income for this orphanage, as a team we ended up purchasing all of the jewelry they had!


            After we came back for lunch, the guys took a very deserved & needed afternoon of rest while the ladies learned how to make chapati! Chapati is the most delicious “bread” that Florence always had at our meals. We wanted to learn how to make it so we could treat ourselves to some back home, so Florence took us under her wing & into her kitchen to teach us.


            Florence taught us what she put into the bread, how to knead the ingredients into the dough, & finally, how to shape the dough. Once we had our dough ready, we each took turns cooking our bread over the small open flame stove she had.


            Of course, after it was all cooked, we had to sample our bread! This was the bread we served at dinner that night! I don’t think ours will ever compare to Florence’s, but it was yummy!


            Since this was the last night of our youth conference, we decided we wanted to show them the Joseph movie & have a fun ice cream night to end the conference well! We had some of the younger kids from Canaan join us for the event. They especially loved the ice cream part!


            This was a fun night to hang out with the children & love on them! And love on them we did!



            After the movie, we hung around (which was typical for down time) & sang worship songs until it was time for bed!



            Thursday was reserved for an all-day eye clinic for the people in the village. We all had pretty much gotten used to the jobs we had been assigned during the eye clinic, so we stayed in our trained lanes. Well, since I didn’t have a specific job, I got to hang out with the patients while they were waiting to be seen. I used this time to evangelize & get to know them a little better. Even though many people do know English, many in the villages do not, so we had some interpreters to help us get rid of the language barrier.


            Thankfully, many came & got their physical vision corrected, but praise God two had their spiritual vision corrected by receiving their salvation in Christ! This is what mission trips are all about!


            Towards the latter part of the day, we sent a messenger to the Canaan Primary School to have the teachers send down those children that may have complained about headaches or not being able to see the front of the room. We expected a few children, but the whole school ended up coming! It made for a very busy, & sometimes stressful, afternoon, but the kids loved getting out of school to come see the doctor.



            After our eye clinic, we had to say goodbye to the Canaan children (we were leaving the next day to head to Kampala for the last part of our mission trip.) This was much harder than I realized. This was such an emotional week for me as it was & this was almost my undoing. I have longed for these children since we left them, but I knew God would bring us back one day!






            Thursday night we got to go into Jinja to eat at a “real” restaurant! We took Mama Rebekah, Little Isaac, William, & Josephine out on the town with us to thank them for their hard work (Papa Isaac wasn’t feeling well & couldn’t be there with us.) This was a beautiful resort located directly on the Nile River.



            Bryan told me this should count for our date night. I think since he brought me all the way to Africa, I’ll give him that one!


            William & Little Isaac are “products” of Canaan. The week were came, they both graduated from university & we wanted to give them some things that would help both of them in their future ministries as preachers (we gifted them both with tablets to help with sermon preparation.)


            I believe this is what Papa Isaac’s vision was all about when he established Canaan. To help the orphaned child become productive in life that will in turn benefit the country of Uganda. Praise God for the work of Papa Isaac & Canaan!

Jinja & Kampala Leisure Day - 042216

            Friday morning, we packed up & left Canaan headed for the capital city of Kampala. While en route, we stopped in Jinja for a leisure lunch & shopping day. Since it was dark when we came in from the airport, we didn’t get to experience the travel & traffic. Goodness, was it scary! I think the signs & the lines in the road (if there were any) were merely for suggestion. There are way too many pictures to post, so make sure you click on the links above for the albums on my Facebook page. Interesting scenery & sights! I do want to post these 2 pictures. The presidential elections for Uganda had just passed & there were still some civil unrest, riots, etc. Police trucks (& military trucks) like these were all over. We even passed this riot that was currently being broken up (you can’t see the fighting, but batons & such were being thrown…scary.)




            When we arrived at our hotel in Kampala & got settled in, Pastor Benjamin with Divine Destiny Ministries came by. We were going to be serving his church during this last leg of our trip. We went out to eat with him & his wife, Margaret, at this most horrible restaurant. The menu was “whole fish, fish fillet, fish fingers, chicken, & meat” (I can’t spell the African accent, so you’ll just have to sound it out - more hilarious that way.) Several people ordered the fish fillets, but no one (save one) got fillets…they got whole fish. And it was the WHOLE fish. When trying to explain the error, the waiters didn’t seem to care. They left the whole fish (head, eyes, & all) at our table…we just had to make due. Thank goodness I am a chicken person (even then, I didn’t get to pick what part of chicken…I just got what they brought.) Only one of us braved the “meat”…I believe he was ok the rest of the trip, but we were worried!


            Saturday morning, we went to Divine Destiny Church to minister to the Muslim slum area surrounding the church. Some of our team members held another eye clinic at the church for the people in the community.


            While the eye clinic was being held, the rest of us went to the soccer field & hung out with children in that area. Some children played in the soccer tournament while some children just hung out & skipped rope, had their face painted, & just sang with us.




            Children came from everywhere to play! They love attention & we were so happy to give it to them. When I started painting faces, they really came out of the woodwork! I would draw an image on one side of their face & the put “God loves you” on the other. Our interpreter, Ezra, suggested that I put “Yesu loves you” (Jesus loves you) because a Muslim will even call their god “God”. There were actually a couple of Muslims girls that came up to me & asked me to put “Allah loves you” on their faces, so I took this moment to witness to these young girls. I told them I couldn’t put that because I didn’t believe in Allah, only Jesus. They never responded to what I explained to them about Jesus, only asked me to draw something else. I can only pray that any seed that was planted was fertilized by another Christ follower!

            I have to introduce you to this sweet boy, Elvis. He stayed by our side the entire day. When we started singing songs, he wanted to sing his special song for us. Bryan & I figured he would come out with any typical Bible song he had learned in the church, but Elvis sang us “Days of Elijah”…all the way through! He was such a sweet boy! I pray we can meet again when we go back!


            This little girl kept giggling & going up to Bryan to ask him different questions, sometimes about her schoolwork, sometimes about other things. She finally took her notebook up to him & asked him how to pray. He wrote down the steps for her in her notebook. We have prayed hard that she follows those steps & shares them with her friends!


            Let me stop to explain a bit about this ministry that Pastor Ben has developed here for the past 10 years. His church is literally on Muslim property, so most of the community are Muslim. This is a very poor area, so the children are lucky if they get fed once a day, much less twice a day. Pastor Ben takes these kids in to feed them at least once a day, ministers to them, & teaches them about the God of the Bible. The community doesn’t mind him evangelizing the children because they get fed & it’s a free babysitter, allowing them to do whatever they may need to do, if anything. He’s built an awesome ministry within the lion’s den, so to speak. Many of the leaders in this church were children that have grown up under his love & direction. Please keep this ministry in your prayers as he witnesses to this very poor area.

            When the soccer tournament was over, we walked the children back up to the church where they would be fed. There were children everywhere! I don’t think I can accurately describe the layout of this community, so hopefully you can see from the pictures on my Facebook page how poor this area was.


            You could tell that some of these children don’t get much to eat because as soon as they were given their bowls of rice & beans, they scooped it up with their fingers as fast as they could & shoveled it into their mouths. It was so disheartening to watch them eat what probably would be their only meal for the day. Makes you appreciate what we so often take for granted.


            Sunday morning, we got up & headed back to Divine Destiny to worship with Pastor Ben & his church. Before church started, different leaders gave us tours of the Muslim slum community to show us just how poor the area was. As I mentioned earlier, I cannot describe this adequately in words. My pictures barely do it justice. I beg of you to please, if you look at nothing else, please look at this photo album & pray for this community. Let me give you a small taste of what you’ll find.

            Most of the children that were running around the area had one of these “toys”…a boda boda tire & an empty plastic water bottle (a boda boda is a motorcycle taxi that can be found EVERYWHERE.) The children had bent the water bottle in so it formed a cup of sorts. They would use this to push the boda boda tire up & down the “street” of the slum area, squealing with laughter every time. This toy is nothing more than someone else’s trash they had made into something for their entertainment…& they were THRILLED to have it! Another stepping on the toes moment of how we are so spoiled in our country.


            Nothing here is sanitary at all. This is the community trash pile for water bottles & the like.


            These are people’s houses that they live in, sometimes with multiple families in one home. We apparently interrupted wash day, because everyone was washing clothes this day.



            This is their “sewage line” consisting of their bathroom waste, among other things that have been thrown in from time to time. This runs all throughout this community. Kids jump over it & walk around it all day, every day.



            After we finished with our tour of the community, we joined them at church for worship & praise! The most special thing about this day for me, besides opening my eyes to our own wastefulness & spoiled nature, was this boy. Somewhere during the tour, he ran to me & grabbed my hand. He walked the whole way with us, never letting me go. I kept worrying about his mother looking for him, but our tour guide, Lydia, assured me he would get home, so with me he stayed! He sat with me during church & it was such a joy to see him hop down from my lap from time to time to sing & dance with the praise team! I want to mention that this little boy was so dirty, so filthy, & he smelled so bad, but I couldn’t put him down. He was so needing of love & I wanted to give that to him while I could. When we came back home, we bleached everything that we could bleach to get that beautiful Ugandan red clay out of them. I attempted to bleach this shirt, not once, not twice, but three times. This is how my shirt currently looks. I cannot get the stains this little boy left out of my shirt, but I’m not sure I want to. I pray those stains will remain on my shirt for as long as that sweet soul will remain imprinted upon my heart: forever!




            After church, we went out to eat with Pastor Ben & his family. We actually ate at a pizza restaurant! Granted, it wasn’t pizza as we know it in the States, but it was something close to home! This is a wonderful family that has done great things for the kingdom of God in that Muslim slum community. Please keep Pastor Ben, his family, & his ministry in your prayers!



            Before heading back to the hotel to pack our things up to head to the airport, we stopped at a Wal-Mart/Costco of sorts to do some last minute shopping. Bryan & I picked up some seasoning our cook used in several dishes so we could try to recreate them at home. Some of the packaging of products were hilarious, such as this honey! Gotta love Africa!


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            This mission trip was such a life changer for me. My heart longed for Africa for 3-4 long years before God answered my desires. And God knew my biggest desire was to experience this with my husband, so He answered that, too. I think my heart fell in love with Bryan on a deeper level because of our shared experience here. I love serving God with him. It makes my heart go pitter pat! Bryan used to be so closed off to Africa, even a trip like this one. He would adamantly, quickly say, “No” whenever Africa was mentioned. But this trip…this blessed, wonderful trip…my husband doesn’t say “no” to Africa now. He says, “Just not now. One day.” Such sweet words!

            I know this blog post was long, but trust me, it isn’t as long as the memories are in my heart. There are so many things I could tell you about that I didn’t include. Like how the women bend at the waist, straight legged. Or how all of the children just run everywhere, without supervision, but always end up back where they belong. Especially about the young Muslim man that happened upon a youth conference at a church where a friend of his went to that, praise God, gave his life to Christ because he wanted the joy he saw in us as we worshiped with the children. And through that same young man, we were able to witness to his whole family when, as a team, we enabled his 18-month-old sister to have surgery for something that could have potentially killed her. Through God working in us, the man, his family, the doctors & hospital staff involved all saw Christ. What more can you ask for in a mission trip?! There is just not enough space to show you what’s stored in my heart. The friends…no, the family…we made here will always hold a special place in our hearts. That drum, you know, the one my heart beats to? It’s gotten so much louder, so much stronger. And I know, God willing, our one day will come!

            We are planning to go back to Africa this April to be of services to the same ministries we encountered this past year. This has been a hard year for Bryan & I financially with different things, but we know if this is God’s will, He will make a way. We have set up a YouCaring page to prayerfully help with the costs of this trip. If you feel led, please click on the link above to donate. If you choose not to donate through that site, please email me to see how else you can donate. If you cannot donate or don’t feel led, your prayers are more important. Thank you all, from the bottom of our hearts, for your prayers!

In His love!

Bryan & Christy Day